The dating issues for country singles can be very different than those of city dwellers due to the nature of rural life. But many of the issues or problems can be the same: perhaps there are key things the individuals are doing wrong on a date that sends out the wrong signals for example. Others may have lost the art of dating, or just don’t recognise romantic opportunities if they jump out at them.
The twelve dating tips below can help single people (and particularly country folk) who are finding dating hard or just need a little reassurance that they are doing the right thing:
Make time to date! This is a particular issue for country singles; rural or farming lifestyles can be full on leaving little time for fun and flirting. Animals need to be fed, milked and tended to everyday so be sure to arrange cover every once in a while to give yourself the time you need to look for love.
Think Positive! Being negative sends out the wrong vibes, this in itself is a barrier that is easily picked up on. If you allow yourself to go around thinking that “all the best men are taken”, or that nobody finds you attractive you will certainly not be exuding positive attitude. Don’t make excuses for yourself by putting the blame on the men (or women), ‘’they are intimidated by me’’ etc. Instead try a visualisation trick – give yourself five minutes every day where you thank your lucky stars for finding you the partner of your dreams. Repeat over and over in your mind the description of how life will be and how your partner will be. In that 5 minutes behave as if it has already happened. You will be surprised at how the power of positive thinking will have a direct impact on your life.
Smile and the world smiles with you! Practice smiling and making eye contact with people, not just the opposite sex but everyone, man, woman, child. If they smile back say good morning or hello. You will be amazed at what a great feeling this gives you and soon you will start to recognise the same people and build a rapport. This is very important to get you out of your comfort zone and communicate more easily. This will give the perception that you are warm and friendly and that is an attractive feature. It will also get you into good practice for when you spot an attractive lady or gent– you will find you can open up communication far more easily.
No agendas! The worst thing you can do is put pressure on someone you have been dating to let you know how he/she feels about you. He will let you know soon enough – and if he doesn’t start telling you the things you want to hear then he isn’t the right guy or he just wants to take his time…if you are multi dating this should not worry you. Many women for example, waste years moving on too quickly because they are afraid they guy isn’t moving fast enough. If they were just patient and let things go with the flow when the guy makes up his mind it moves pretty quickly from there.
Keep your options open at first! - Multi-date and arrange to meet up with lots of different people. If you get too wrapped up in the first person you find you have any sort of connection with it will stop you being an interesting challenge to that person and also you might be eliminating some other promising options. Keep your options open until you have been seeing someone for a couple of months, then you can agree together on the exclusivity of the relationship.
Take it slow! Don’t become too intimate too quickly. Keep him or her guessing. Let him get to know more about you as a person before inviting him to get to know you intimately.
Be open minded! Try not to make wish lists about what shape, size colour your partner will be. Statistics show many people who have settled with a partner admit their choice was never the sort of person they thought they would end up with.
Choose wisely! With the point above in mind – do select someone who will understand your country way of life, there will be little point in dating city folk who may not understand you. Similarly with location don’t choose someone who lives the other side of the world.
Always look your best! – Yes of course personality is key but first impressions count and there is so much competition out there. The more toned you are, the more well read, the more interesting and the more groomed you are the better. Knock out a little bit more of your competition and make yourself feel good to boot– in fact you will often find if you are ahead in your game you will be fighting the suitors off!
Get some objective advice! Get your friends and family to tell you how you come across – don’t be too sensitive, listen to what people say about you and use this to your advantage. You are never too old to adapt your ways. For example if you know you always talk over people and have trouble listening you can keep this in the back of your mind on the date and try to stop yourself.
Don’t be scared of online dating sites. Thousands and thousands of people find love online everyday. It’s just escalating your chances of finding Mr right 1000%. If you live in a rural area with not much going on try registering with us for free at CountrySide Love we are a dating site specifically run for country singles.
Keep a little mystery! – don’t tell him/her too much about yourself on your first date, ask about him. Leave him wanting more. Always make your first date short and sweet.